Tyra Banks on America’s Next Top Model taught wanna-be models to ‘smize,’ which is to smile with your eyes (how-to link in comments).

Smile or smize at men you find attractive & hold their gaze for 5 seconds. That may feel like an eternity, but it’s just a fraction of a minute.

This behavior may feel wild to you. You may want to practice in the mirror first. That’s a wonderful idea. 🙂 Set a timer and go.

If you smile at him for 5 seconds he’ll know you’re interested. 

He won’t know you’re interested if you smile & look away after a second. It’s too fast. It won’t feel intentional the way 5 seconds does.

Smiling and holding eye contact now is the equivalent of what women did long ago – feigning and dropping the hankie. “Oh, I dropped that? Why thank you so much,” etc. 

It was an open invitation then for more contact. 🙂

Some women can’t smile at a man they’re attracted to but can smile at anyone else. When that comes up there’s something deeper going on, for ex., possibly a belief  “I can’t have what I want.” So they don’t try, which keeps fulfilling the unfulfilling cycle. So much goes on beneath our surface. But, it’s all figure-out-able.

We’ve all heard this a million times – to have a different result, try doing something different, not what you’ve been doing all along (that hasn’t been working).

I’m not suggesting you say hello first or do more than master this. Simply smile at a man you may like, and hold his gaze for 5 seconds. 

If he’s interested, he’ll let you know. If he isn’t interested he won’t respond. If he’s involved, he won’t respond (unless he’s a weasel).

You’re out 5 seconds of smiling (which, BTW, gives you endorphins, the feel-good brain chemicals), plus you’re taking a small risk, which builds your self-confidence. #win/win

Try this 10 times in the next 5 days. Write or record how you feel as you go through the process, and what your results are.

If you’d like one-to-one help, I can help you build confidence, find ‘the one’ or enhance a rocky relationship. 

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